Dad’s Birthday

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October 7th would have been my dad’s 100th birthday. Ten years ago, in the summer before his 90th birthday, I made a pact with my daughters and their spouses to plan an early birthday party, on his turf. He had never met one of his great grandchildren and had seen the three others only once when they were just babies. I was remembering a comment made by my then three-year-old granddaughter when she learned that my mother had died. “That’s so sad. She never got to meet me.” This little one, in particular, needed to meet her great grandfather.

School would be in session on his actual birthday so the plan was for July. This was not an easy feat. One family lived in Santa Monica, the other in San Francisco. There were jobs to be considered for the spouses. More problematic, his turf was in Missouri. There was no easy way to get there. No direct flights, few airline options and travel with four children under seven. I was asking a lot from my daughters. And Missouri in the middle of July! That was asking a lot of everyone. But they rose to the occasion and we made our plans.

At the time, my aunt had a big house on the lake not far from my dad’s home. A vacation house with many bedrooms. The perfect solution. An above ground pool, a fishing dock, something for everyone. We were set.

My expectations were not high for “a good time had by all.” I am not a big fan of Missouri. But this was all about Dad and the great grandchildren. Ten years later and they are all still talking about it. The amazing thunderstorms, the ease of catching fish off the dock(so easy that my son-in-law finally got bored hauling them in), the enormous property where the children could run free and build things out of found objects, Silver Dollar City which is still a favorite theme park of my other son-in-law, the barbecues and, of course, my dad.

Watching him with those great grandchildren will always be my favorite memory of him. Their joy and his joy. There was never such a party as this early 90th birthday celebration.  He didn’t make that 90th birthday.   He died in August of that year, after meeting those great grandchildren, his life complete. I will be eternally grateful to my children for making this one of his happiest moments. Grateful that they took time from their hectic lives so that their children could know a great grandparent. Grateful that they didn’t have to say, “He never got to meet me.”

The Perfect Summer

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223531My oldest grandchild just turned 17. Ever since he was born, I have been planning for the time I could take him, his sister and their cousins on a trip. Just us, no “adults.” I confess to priming them for the event as early as when Max was soaring on his favorite ride, the swing, and we chanted, “What are you doing?” “Flying.” “Where are you flying?” “To Italy!” And, the postcards from every country I ever visited. One to each. Occasionally, the parents, but always one to grandchildren.

So, this was the summer–while they were still willing to travel with a grandmother and not totally engrossed with friends. Now or never.

Logistics are a problem with most travel but trying to coordinate between two families in two different places is beyond problematic. The end result was to take two trips, back-to-back, with siblings, to a place of their choosing. Europe was the choice with different destinations for the two groups. Here follows the tale.

 

Max and Zoё chose Germany and anything close. Of course, Germany (Berlin, Dresden, Munich, Neuschwanstein) got expanded to include the Czech Republic (Prague), Belgium (Brussels and Brugge) and Holland (Amsterdam and Haarlem). Airbnb was our primary source for accommodations (that and two wonderful friends, Diana and Palmer!) and our experience was mostly favorable. Of course the favorite of the teenagers was the “bachelor pad.” Inappropriate sayings sprayed on the wall, xbox and a forest of wires for the electronics, dimming multi-colored lights leaning towards red. But the real clue was discovered by my granddaughter. Coming from the bathroom, she confirmed that it was indeed a bachelor’s pad. The toilet was fixed with duct tape. A problem later but still part of the fun.

308And fun we had from the discovery of the gypsy camp to Mad King Ludwig’s castle and everything in between. Only a few incidences of sheer panic, always on my part and usually having to do with missed or almost-missed connections, and many u-turns. Navigationally handicapped, those nifty little city maps downloaded on the iPhone were a godsend. Every day was a day of discovery and a lot of wandering, clocking a minimum of ten miles a day. For two amazing weeks we caught early morning trains, not the norm for growing teenagers, ate lots of bratwurst, sampled newly discovered dishes, visited museums, cruised canals in pedal boats, rode bicycles and stayed out late. A perfect start.

 

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A mere ten days later, I was off to LA to pick up the next two, sadly leaving behind the eight-year-old, but a paper cut-out joined us. Their first choice was probably France, but my daughter gets that one as she spent a year in Paris–it’s only fair. Where did they choose? According to Gavin, “Grandma owns Italy!” and Eleanor was delighted with the choice. What’s not to like about long meals and lots of pasta? Finally, flying with grandchildren to Italy. Once again, Airbnb satisfied our housing needs except for a three-day home exchange in Venice. Mostly I got those right. Where I erred was in forgetting the heat and how, even though the sites said “air conditioned,” this was not a universal understanding of “air conditioned.” And it was hot. That said, we managed with my wisest inclusion in my bag, the spritzer bottle and Vape for those ubiquitous mosquitos.

583From Rome and its fantastic antiquities to Florence with its art treasures, from day trips to Siena and that “tower” in Pisa to cycling the walls of charming Lucca, from gondolas on the Grand Canal to the colorful houses of Burano, to Cremona, the home of the modern violin with its incredible collection of ancient instruments to our flight out of Milan, we feasted on pasta, including the inky variety, cinghiale, and lots of gelato–at least twice a day, sometimes more–coveted shade, napped at mid-day, spritzed our faces to cool and stayed out late. Another amazing two weeks and a perfect ending to a perfect summer.

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Real or–really?

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peru4The Amazon conjures up many images.  Jungles, water, copious mosquitoes, water, creatures best left to the imagination, water.  As I discovered, those images bear a striking resemblance to the reality of the Amazon.  My adventure was not in the rainy season, rather in the flooding season when villages normally in the jungle are now surrounded by water and boats are the only way in and out.  Still, walks in the jungle are possible but more time is spent on boats than on foot.  The advantage to the jungle walks is the proximity to those creatures.

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Our local guide was determined to give us the jungle experience so would periodically disappear in search of something we had never seen before.  First, it was the very colorful, very small, very poisonous frog.  About the size of a thumbnail, the little critter was brought to us on a leaf for viewing.  It is a truly amazing color, unlike anything I had ever seen.

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Moving on, our trip leader hoped that the guide would find a good snake for us, preferably an anaconda.  The guide disappears into the jungle then comes running back, soaked up to his armpits, shouting “snake!”  An anaconda is wrapped around his arm as he holds it just under its gaping jaws.  What luck!  Back into the jungle to, presumably, toss the snake back into the water.

“Maybe he will find a tarantula.”  Lo, the guide returns with, yes, a tarantula–big, brown and hairy.  This is beginning to sound like a jungle script.

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Did the guide really happen on these specimens we were hoping to see?   Or, does he have a mini creature circus hiding amongst the trees?  In the Amazon, we are all rubes and I loved every minute of it, real or “really.”

Water, water…

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When I think of Carnival, I think of masks, costumes, parades and lots of drinking. Think Venice, Rio and New Orleans. Peru has its own ideas. Parades, yes, costumes, yes, drinking, yes. What is different is water and plenty of it.

peru3I suppose that shouldn’t come as a surprise considering that the Amazon originates in Peru. At this time of year, the water level on the Amazon is nearing its highest level. Villages along the river are inundated, families move their belongings to the second floor, and step out into boats for their daily chores.

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Higher up, clouds hover over Machu Picchu, opening up to drench the tourists in the afternoon. Water rushing down from the Andes would be an adventurous kayaker’s dream (or nightmare.)

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My first encounter with Carnival was in the town of Iquitos, a town reached only by air or water. There is a road, but that road goes only to another small-town port up river. As I wandered with my camera looking for “happenings,” I spotted a crowd and closed in. There was water all over the streets, people were soaking wet and, I belatedly noticed, covered in mud. Still, I continued into the crowd but soon regretted that move. A group of those wet, mud-covered, and obviously drunk souls headed my way with water buckets and hands full of mud. No plastic bag for the camera, I was stunned to realize that their aim was to add me to the fun. I tried the crossed-hands hex but they kept coming. Finally, a small shriek with elbows up caused them to pause before tossing the bucket of water. Saved from that, I allowed some mud smearing, took a very bad photo with my shaking camera and did a 180. Inaugurated as a part of the group, we waved, I took a better photo and carefully picked my way back to the hotel avoiding all crowds.

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Peru9My next water experience was after the Machu Picchu drenching in the nearby town of Aquas Calientes. Already wet, I was at least prepared with a plastic bag and an umbrella for the sake of the camera. A crowd of young boys were filling buckets from the stream running through the town and tossing them at one another. Of course, that became boring and they started after anyone who dared to come close. At the time, I thought they were just having fun in the rain in a disorganized way.

Peru7Then the parade started, complete with native costumes, clowns and, yes, buckets of water and spray cans of foam. No one was exempt. In the outdoor restaurants, waiters attacked one another dousing any and all who came near. The only way to avoid a soaking was to choose a restaurant on the up side of the hill where the thrower would take the brunt of the water toss. While the targets might have been random, the throwing of buckets of water was clearly an annual event.

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Take the bus

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When city life gets to be too much:  traffic, noise, street people, dirt, I hop on a bus. It was one of those days so I headed for the 1 California, riding it to the end of the line. Since this is San Francisco, that’s really not so far. Just about 25 minutes. But it’s a different world.

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I started at the Palace of the Legion of Honor, the museum that sits on the point of the city overlooking the bay. The current exhibit was Houghton Hall, a pretentious showing of furnishings from a country manor owned by the Walpole family, that I found less than interesting and having nothing to do with living in a city with natural treasures. Ten minutes max and I was out the door and into that different world.

 

 

A public golf course abuts the museum.

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I’m not a fan of golf courses, but this one has no choice but to follow the crazy cliff terrain filled with giant pines, underbrush and amazing vistas of Marin and the Golden Gate Bridge.

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One can follow along a lightly traveled road through the course and beyond for more than an hour. I called it a day when I eventually reached a path that goes along the tops of the cliffs ending at the bridge. A wander through the Sea Cliff area of fine homes took me back toward the 1 California and home.

I’m saving that trail to the bridge for another, perhaps clearer, day.

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The Porch

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IMG_2818 I live in a city. Not one of those multi-million inhabitants cities, a mere 825,000 give or take. Still a lot of people in 46 square miles. Lots of cement, cars, noise, and not enough green, private space. In older parts of the city, buildings abut one another and most apartments have windows facing only one direction although bay windows are quite popular affording at least a peak at alternative views. My apartment building is a find. There is a private garden along the front of the building that is nicely maintained and has an area for picnics and barbeques. The tenants use that garden often. We have celebrated many special events and eaten amazing meals here but that’s for another time. More importantly for me, there is “the porch.” A seemingly useless space outside my dining room window.

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Grated bars keep the unwanted from accessing my apartment via the fire escapes and beyond those bars is the reflective, tar paper roof of the porch.

 

 

 

 

 

The building at 100+ years has many wonderful details and those who venture out onto the roof are protected by a waist-high balustrade. This encloses the space and I have adopted it as my own.  It is no longer useless.       IMG_2792IMG_2834

Lavender, sage, rosemary and multi-colored seasonal flowers flourish.  On this porch,  I have created the ultimate urban garden. With my morning coffee in hand, I greet the day along with the humming birds, bees and butterflies that find their way to my little oasis on the second floor. There is an open invitation to join me. It only requires putting one leg out the window onto the roof, bending double to duck under the window, twisting the body and grabbing the window frame while pulling the other leg out and raising to a standing position. Practicing yoga helps. IMG_2882So far, it is just me and the fauna.

Santiago–the end of a long road

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Galicia doesn’t feel like Spain. At least not the Spain I know. The Spain of sunshine, sangria, warm weather and orange trees. Galicia is cold and rainy and, I swear, the wind never stops blowing.

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But Galicia offers a unique experience. The opportunity to witness (or participate if you like) the culmination of an ancient tradition. And some of the best seafood imaginable.

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This is the city of Santiago de Compostela, the final stop on El Camino de Santiago, the way of St. James. The first pilgrims began the trek in the 10th century, with the crowds peaking in the Middle Ages when as many as 500,000 of the faithful followed the path each year. At its peak, it vied with Rome and Jerusalem as the most important pilgrimage. Today, it is the only one where all who reach the end have traveled the road, mostly on foot, a few on bicycles. There have been years where few made the effort. Not so now as more than 100,000 lined up for their certificates of passage last year.

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Two recent travelers told me theirs was a 31 day trek beginning in the Pyrenees. Many don’t make the journey in one constant trek, some taking years by hiking the trail in small segments as their time allows. Most of those who do, do not escaped unscathed. Walking sticks become crutches, knees are wrapped tight, bruises, cuts, scrapes are the norm. Exhaustion is evident on every face. Some require the assistance of friends just to make those last steps. But the mood is one of triumph, elation, camaraderie of a shared experience, and sheer joy.

Many of the people in the plaza have already finished their journey, some arriving days ago. They fall into one another’s arms as they reconnect with people they met along the way, strangers on the trail, separated by stamina, age, injuries, whatever may have delayed the arrival. No longer strangers but a new kind of friend. A fellow pilgrim.

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Maybe next year.